# model ## what attracts women * **status** - behavior instead of actual * **desire to be desired** - paradox of pursue and non-caring ## emotional neediness neediness is a huge turn-off for women they can sniff them out quickly in a man ## power in vulnerability vulnerability is the path of true human connection and becoming a truly attractive person showing desire is a vulnerability and short-circuits the paradox when desire is shown without neediness, it is attractive ## gift of truth be honest with your intention cannot fake vulnerability, cannot fake truth - truth has to be a gift, given with no conditions or expectations it all comes down to what is being sub-communicated when in doubt, check your intentions set boundaries for yourself but not others **friction** - she finds you attractive but external circumstances prevent her from taking actions **projection** - she projects her own trust issues and resentments on to you ## polarization 3 types of women: * receptive - already attracted to you; respond positively to your advances * neutral - polarize them in order get them to decide - this is basically game * unreceptive - give up; don't bother ## rejection and success majority of the times (95%) women are going to reject you - it's usually not about you think of it as a treasure hunt for the 5% women who are attracted to you attitude of "*i wonder what she's like*" / "*i wonder if we'll have an adventure together*" **success = maximizing happiness with whichever women we prefer** ## three fundamentals * creating an attractive and appealing lifestyle (honest living) * overcoming your fears and anxiety around women (honest action) * mastering the expression of your emotions and communicating fluidly (honest communication) ### honest living demographic: like attracts like go where your interest lies our beliefs are reflected in our behavior, and behavior determines which women are attract to us screening women through your personal beliefs is incredibly powerful 1. the assumption that woman is attracted to you 2. women playing games or are "testing" you **assume attraction; assume they don't play games** age, money and looks do matter but don't matter as much as most guys think the more money/looks/success you have, the less attractive behavior you need; the less money/looks/success you have, the more attractive behavior you need. ditch the any sort of rating scale for women - it's a subtle and unconscious way of putting women on a pedestal and therefore over-investing yourself and become needy use binary system instead - 1 or 0 treat the 1% women like she's just a normal human being your life and everything that it encompasses, is a reflection of your emotional investment in yourself the more invested you are in yourself, the less needy you are with others fashion and fitness are the easiest to change within your control body language and vocal tonality how to be fascinating - being well-read, developing artistic taste, trying new things, and having opinions ### honest action how many bullshit stories do you tell yourself for not taking action **defense mechanism** * fear of approaching and starting a conversation with an attractive woman * fear of stating sexual interest either directly or indirectly * fear of initiating sexual contact * fear of actual sexual intercourse **excuse pattern** * blame game * apathy and avoidance * intellectualizing take full responsibility and accountability of your results and your actions give up porn and masturbate only once a week with women you've met but haven't had sex with the way to attack anxieties is through incremental, but high volume exposure feeling fear and acting despite of it builds courage acknowledge interrupting social norms if taking bold actions always err on the side of aggression ### honest communication intention - teasing is done with with a fun and positive intention; insults are done with a negative intention there's no such thing as a man who is good with women who isn't also creepy some of the time creepiness - behaving in a way that threatens a woman sexually or causes her to feel insecure flirting - expressing your sexuality to a woman in a non-needy manner, eliciting her to become more attracted to you what a lot of men refer to as "game" is their ability to flirt with women leading is another type of flirting - statement of sexual interest, physically touching her, asking her personal questions about herself, inviting her out on a date or home with you emotional connections are POWERFUL seduction is about feelings, not facts --- # Agent Instructions: Querying This Documentation If you need additional information that is not directly available in this page, you can query the documentation dynamically by asking a question. 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