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mark mason
what attracts women
status - behavior instead of actual
desire to be desired - paradox of pursue and non-caring
emotional neediness
neediness is a huge turn-off for women
they can sniff them out quickly in a man
power in vulnerability
vulnerability is the path of true human connection and becoming a truly attractive person
showing desire is a vulnerability and short-circuits the paradox
when desire is shown without neediness, it is attractive
gift of truth
be honest with your intention
cannot fake vulnerability, cannot fake truth - truth has to be a gift, given with no conditions or expectations
it all comes down to what is being sub-communicated
when in doubt, check your intentions
set boundaries for yourself but not others
friction - she finds you attractive but external circumstances prevent her from taking actions
projection - she projects her own trust issues and resentments on to you
polarization
3 types of women:
receptive - already attracted to you; respond positively to your advances
neutral - polarize them in order get them to decide - this is basically game
unreceptive - give up; don't bother
rejection and success
majority of the times (95%) women are going to reject you - it's usually not about you
think of it as a treasure hunt for the 5% women who are attracted to you
attitude of "i wonder what she's like" / "i wonder if we'll have an adventure together"
success = maximizing happiness with whichever women we prefer
three fundamentals
creating an attractive and appealing lifestyle (honest living)
overcoming your fears and anxiety around women (honest action)
mastering the expression of your emotions and communicating fluidly (honest communication)
honest living
demographic: like attracts like
go where your interest lies
our beliefs are reflected in our behavior, and behavior determines which women are attract to us
screening women through your personal beliefs is incredibly powerful
the assumption that woman is attracted to you
women playing games or are "testing" you
assume attraction; assume they don't play games
age, money and looks do matter but don't matter as much as most guys think
the more money/looks/success you have, the less attractive behavior you need; the less money/looks/success you have, the more attractive behavior you need.
ditch the any sort of rating scale for women - it's a subtle and unconscious way of putting women on a pedestal and therefore over-investing yourself and become needy
use binary system instead - 1 or 0
treat the 1% women like she's just a normal human being
your life and everything that it encompasses, is a reflection of your emotional investment in yourself
the more invested you are in yourself, the less needy you are with others
fashion and fitness are the easiest to change within your control
body language and vocal tonality
how to be fascinating - being well-read, developing artistic taste, trying new things, and having opinions
honest action
how many bullshit stories do you tell yourself for not taking action
defense mechanism
fear of approaching and starting a conversation with an attractive woman
fear of stating sexual interest either directly or indirectly
fear of initiating sexual contact
fear of actual sexual intercourse
excuse pattern
blame game
apathy and avoidance
intellectualizing
take full responsibility and accountability of your results and your actions
give up porn and masturbate only once a week with women you've met but haven't had sex with
the way to attack anxieties is through incremental, but high volume exposure
feeling fear and acting despite of it builds courage
acknowledge interrupting social norms if taking bold actions
always err on the side of aggression
honest communication
intention - teasing is done with with a fun and positive intention; insults are done with a negative intention
there's no such thing as a man who is good with women who isn't also creepy some of the time
creepiness - behaving in a way that threatens a woman sexually or causes her to feel insecure
flirting - expressing your sexuality to a woman in a non-needy manner, eliciting her to become more attracted to you
what a lot of men refer to as "game" is their ability to flirt with women
leading is another type of flirting - statement of sexual interest, physically touching her, asking her personal questions about herself, inviting her out on a date or home with you
emotional connections are POWERFUL
seduction is about feelings, not facts
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